Which One Is the Real You?
As we discussed in the previous article, social pressures have a deep impact on how we see ourselves, especially as we try to live up to established beauty standards.
Media and social networks play a major role in this process. They constantly push us to compare our lives, bodies, and achievements with others. Over time, this can make us feel inadequate, insecure, and even anxious.
In this environment, it’s worth asking yourself:
What would make you feel good if you were the only one looking at your body?
What would you like to truly benefit from?
How would you like your life to be different?
Maybe you would like to:
Change your style
Renew your wardrobe
Join a dance class
Practice gymnastics or another sport
Spend more time taking care of your appearance
Treat yourself to massages or spa days
Practice yoga or any other activity you enjoy
Feel more attractive or more confident
Feel less lonely
But what exactly do you want?
How would you like to treat your body differently?
What would make you feel better about your body?
And what’s stopping you from doing it now?
You might think, “No, that doesn’t sound like me. That’s too ideal.”
The truth is, you only know yourself as you have always been. And even if you want to change, you might fear that it won’t feel authentic. So, you avoid trying, to protect yourself from disappointment or pain.
But this isn’t about chasing an ideal. It’s about discovering another way of relating to your body—one that is just as real as the one you live in today.
Ask yourself: what do you gain by avoiding this change for so long?
Do you fear becoming someone unrecognizable, someone different from who you think you are?
It’s understandable that imagining a new version of yourself or planning for change can feel difficult. But if you keep running away from these thoughts, you risk closing yourself off completely and becoming resistant to any form of growth.
And deep down, you already know this: when there is no change, there is no evolution.
You simply need to recognize that your body and your reality can be different. Your possibilities are not limited to what you’ve experienced so far.
The good news is that you don’t need to escape into dreams or fantasies to avoid what you dislike. You can start shifting how you see your reality today.
This is the beginning of your journey toward the unexpected transformation that is waiting for you.
In the next article, we will explore the ideas of self-judgment and self-acceptance in greater detail—concepts that are also central to the “Befriend Your Body” program.
Warm regards,
Metamorphosis
By Maya Naddaf
